Sex Roles. Cross-sex friendship is a generally ignored yet significant close relationship in American culture. This paper is primarily a call to social scientists for attention to this relationship.
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Max : Women, I can't be your friend. According to science, my fragile pea-brain male mind prevents me from seeing you as anything but a sexual partner. I know you haven't noticed all that broiling sexual tension between us in chapel.
A friend of mine recently went to a party and had a discussion with the host's father regarding relationships. The conversation took a wrong turn when the father expressed his old school—I'd like to call it outdated— opinion of women in relationships who hang around men. He essentially stated that if a woman is in a relationship with someone they really care about, they wouldn't have relations with males. However, when she pointed out his sons— who are both in committed relationships— hang out with women when their significant others aren't present, he was unresponsive double standard much?
Heterosexual males and heterosexual females are generally considered to be at the mercy of their biological urges, unable to be in a relationship with an individual of the opposite sex without harboring a romantic attraction. However, while much of society may believe this, experts disagree. Cross-sex relationships, or, non-romantic friendships between persons of different sexes, can be incredibly rich and rewarding.
The Westminster Reviewa quarterly British publication, ran an article in by a female writer starting with the question: "Why is it that women cannot be allowed by the world at large to have male friends? A year later, another writer, this time a man, took up the same question but answered it differently: Only after women prove that they can have "worthy thoughts and aspirations" without "losing any of their modesty and self-respect" will men "pay homage to them as platonic friends. Growing up in New York City roughly a century after the Westminster exchange, I never had to prove to my best friend, Jeffthat I could pull off the worthy-yet-modest trick.
Individuals in the mutual romance situation generally reported the most maintenance behavior. Those in the rejects romance and strictly platonic situations reported less routine contact and activity, less flirtation, and more talk about outside romance. Individuals in the rejects romance and mutual romance situations reported the most relationship talk.
Everyday Friendships pp Cite as. This chapter discusses the symptoms and consequences of the normative assumptions I condensed in the love—friendship paradox Chapter 5 with specific reference to cross-sex friendship. While we might assume that today intimate relationships are free from social convention, that turns out to be true for cross-sex friendship only to a limited extent.
A cross-sex friendship is a platonic relationship between an unrelated man and woman. There are multiple types of cross-sex friendshipsall defined by whether or not each party has a romantic attraction to each other, or perceives that the other is interested. A few theories have been developed to explain the existence of such friendships.